OK, so something happened this weekend that is a total first for me. I have the feeling it won't be the last either. I don't see it as a problem, per se, in fact it's kind of cute and my heart swells thinking that my boys are discovering girls...but here's what happened.
My oldest son is 13, he swears he has no interest in girls...I mean gag me Mom! And my younger son is 10, he is very inquisitive about relationships and he really likes girls in a "you're fun to play with" way. He takes a lot of heat from his older brother. Anyway, my mother's next door neighbor has a teenage daughter...she's 14, tall and slender, very immature and talks 90 mph. She usually plays with the younger kids on the block, I have never seen her with anyone her own age. My kids have been spending weekends at my Mom's house and Julian really enjoys playing with Jasmine (the girl next door). She is always telling Julian about her boyfriend, and Dante typically hides from her swearing he can't stand her...but this weekend was a little different.
This weekend I went to pick up the kids and Mom said they had both been outside playing all weekend. This was good news, I am always happy when Dante has some social activity. My Mom was holding her mouth and kind of snickering and whispered "I have to talk to you later!" So, I knew something was up. On the way home, I stopped to get gas. I gave Dante some cash and asked him to go inside and pay the cashier so I could pump the gas...while he was inside, Julian says, "I have to talk to you later! I have to tell you something that I don't want my brother to know!" I said, "Just tell me, he'll be inside for a few minutes," so Julian blurts out..."I have a girlfriend!!" He was beaming.
I had a feeling right away he was talking about Jasmine, and when I asked him he confirmed it. I asked him what happened to Jasmine's other boyfriend, and he said, "oh, they broke up, I guess." He was glowing, so happy...I tried to ignore the fact that she is 14 and my baby is only 10.
Later the next day, I talked to my Mom, and come to find out...Jasmine asked Dante to be her boyfriend and he turned her down. I came to the sinking conclusion that Jasmine asked Julian after that and he probably had no idea. Aiy Yai! What's a mother to do?
This will probably continue to happen all through their lives because they do everything together, they are best friends and although they look a lot alike they are polar opposites. Girls are going to be attracted to both of them for different reasons. It's really hard not to get involved, but I think I better just stay out of it, and be there when the chips fall. There comes a point where I have to let them live their lives...it is so hard not to get involved, and this is just the first time something like this has happened. Here we go...God help me! :)
My oldest son is 13, he swears he has no interest in girls...I mean gag me Mom! And my younger son is 10, he is very inquisitive about relationships and he really likes girls in a "you're fun to play with" way. He takes a lot of heat from his older brother. Anyway, my mother's next door neighbor has a teenage daughter...she's 14, tall and slender, very immature and talks 90 mph. She usually plays with the younger kids on the block, I have never seen her with anyone her own age. My kids have been spending weekends at my Mom's house and Julian really enjoys playing with Jasmine (the girl next door). She is always telling Julian about her boyfriend, and Dante typically hides from her swearing he can't stand her...but this weekend was a little different.
This weekend I went to pick up the kids and Mom said they had both been outside playing all weekend. This was good news, I am always happy when Dante has some social activity. My Mom was holding her mouth and kind of snickering and whispered "I have to talk to you later!" So, I knew something was up. On the way home, I stopped to get gas. I gave Dante some cash and asked him to go inside and pay the cashier so I could pump the gas...while he was inside, Julian says, "I have to talk to you later! I have to tell you something that I don't want my brother to know!" I said, "Just tell me, he'll be inside for a few minutes," so Julian blurts out..."I have a girlfriend!!" He was beaming.
I had a feeling right away he was talking about Jasmine, and when I asked him he confirmed it. I asked him what happened to Jasmine's other boyfriend, and he said, "oh, they broke up, I guess." He was glowing, so happy...I tried to ignore the fact that she is 14 and my baby is only 10.
Later the next day, I talked to my Mom, and come to find out...Jasmine asked Dante to be her boyfriend and he turned her down. I came to the sinking conclusion that Jasmine asked Julian after that and he probably had no idea. Aiy Yai! What's a mother to do?
This will probably continue to happen all through their lives because they do everything together, they are best friends and although they look a lot alike they are polar opposites. Girls are going to be attracted to both of them for different reasons. It's really hard not to get involved, but I think I better just stay out of it, and be there when the chips fall. There comes a point where I have to let them live their lives...it is so hard not to get involved, and this is just the first time something like this has happened. Here we go...God help me! :)
2 comments:
Yeah, your boys are gonna have you all twisted up in the years to come! Girls calling them all the time, wanting to go out on 'dates' before you want them to, and a keener interest in their own appearance. Get ready, momma, it's coming!
Love ya,
Bette
Oh boy! They are growing up!
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